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Are You Living a Parasympathetic Lifestyle

The sympathetic nervous system (SNS) prepares the body for intense physical activity and is often referred to as the fight-or-flight response. The parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) has almost the exact opposite effect and relaxes the body and inhibits or slows many high energy functions.

Today’s modern lifestyle promotes living a sympathic lifestyle. Sympathetic is not always bad for it prepares the body to handle sudden stress in times of need. However, unlike our ancestors we cannot always use this sudden rise in stress chemicals in its intended manner for life and death struggles. For example if we are our sympathetic system may kick in during a traffic jam. We cannot just use physical activities to decrease the chemicals but instead our stuck sitting in a car.

One way of developing a more PNS in times of stress is focusing on the breath. Focusing on diaphragmatic breathing enables us to down regulate the sympathetic nervous system, which then causes the parasympathetic nervous system to become dominant. Shallow breathingbreath holding and hyper-ventilating triggers the sympathetic nervous system, in a “fight or flight” response.

The vegus nerver is the largest cranial nerve and controls all major bodily functions including the breath, heart rate and digestion. A person’s vagal tone determines how fast they recover from a fight or flight situation. A person with a high vagal tone is more resilient to stress. People with low vagal tone, on the other hand, are more sensitive to stress and disease. They tend to have challenges such as weak digestion, increased heart rate, and difficulty managing emotions. Interestingly, low vagal tone is correlated with health conditions such as depression, anxiety, chronic pain.

The most immediate way to change the balance of sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system actions is with the breath. To counterbalance any over-stimulation of the sympathetic nervous system, vagus nerve yoga focuses on diaphragmatic breathing and extending the length of the exhale.  More to come.

Intuition in Artwork

So many times I have let my intuition guide me in choosing themes for my watercolors. For example in this painting it was the opening to the ocean that drew me. To me when I paint I try to get a sense of what scene is this symbolizing. In many ways I am using my visual intuition to give me a message. What is this painting telling you?

Conversations with a Dragonfly

The Great Spirit is in all things: he is in the air we breathe. The Great Spirit is our Father, but the Earth is our Mother. She nourishes us; that which we put into the ground she returns to us.” – Big Thunder (Bedagi) Wabanaki, Algonquin

As I sat by the shore near that sacred lake today I wondered whether my spirit guide dragonfly would show up. I closed my eyes and centered on my heart. When I opened my eyes there he was on the sand next to me. I greeted him by his Indian name Spotted Wolf. I asked him what lesson he had for me today. I told him I wanted to know how the Indians learned their wisdom.

Spotted Wolf said American Indians sought to be part of beauty and wild around them. They did not try to control these gifts that Mother Earth provided them. He said not changing people and controlling things especially nature would only lead to discord. Our teepees were built upon the earth and our altars were made of earth. The earth is where we all returned. We sat on the earth instead of propping ourselves up so that we would not give up our life giving forces we gained from the earth.

Humankind has not woven the web of life. Nature has woven the web. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things are connected. The way to connect to the web is by opening our hearts. I asked him how do to this and he said he would be back another day.

My Conversations with my Dragonfly Spirit Guide

As previously posted I usually ride a 2 mile wooded trail by Lake Washacum.  This lake was the previous home to the Nashaway Indians.  Two days ago I stopped to take a break and sat down on the shore.  I was approached by a dragonfly who caught my attention.  I have recently been doing more and more meditation.  I decided I would meditate with the dragonfly.

Within a minute I started hearing the dragonfly speaking in my head.  The dragonfly told me his name was Spotted Wolf.  He had lived on the lake back in the early 1700’s and had been reincarnated as a dragonfly and was my spirit guide.    

Spotted Wolf had chosen to come to me in the form of a dragonfly because they represent a transformation. As long as I came to visit him at this spot on the shore of the lake he would give me insight. He told me I should communicate his wisdom through this blog in a series of posts.

Wakan Tanka, Great Mystery, Teach me how to trust My heart, My mind, My intuition, My inner knowing, The senses of my body, The blessings of my spirit. Teach me to trust these things So that I may enter my Sacred Space And love beyond my fear, And thus Walk in Balance With the passing of each glorious Sun. – Lakota Prayer

The Native Americans believed the space between the in and out breath is the Sacred Space for there we fall back to our natural state. We transcend fear and find true love when we release the ego and sense of separate self. To walk in balance refers to the harmony between heaven and earth. Spotted Wolf said we must go out in nature and respect the balance seen in nature. That is why he had chosen this sacred ground for it was becoming scarce in the world to find such a place.

Insects as Spirit Guides

Last week I was out riding my bike and decided to take a rest near a lake.  This lake was used by the native American Indians.  This to me is a sacred place.  A dragonfly came up and sat down next to me.  He told me stories and messages. 

Dragonfly lives near water, in fact he will hatch and live in the water until he matures. As an adult, he flies away and gains his vibrant beautiful colored wings. As your animal totem, Dragonfly is an indication that you may be ready to experience your own transformation and change. He needs you to get in touch with your deep positive emotions in order to grow. Dragonfly, with his graceful movements in flight, is able to view his world through many different perspectives. His message to you is that you will find your true path by seeing through life’s illusions and finding the perspective that fits for you. Dragonfly also teaches you that when you do find your inner light, let it shine for all to see. Savor every moment of your life and live with joy.

What is your spirit insect or animal?  And do you recognize them when they are near you?  


The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”-Albert Einstein

What role does technology play in developing intuitive intelligence. In order to explore that, we have to look at how it is used. Technology is a broad term so in this blog I will concentrate on the topic of the sheer amount of information that is at our finger tips.

First, we have to look at what is intuition. In the psychological literature, intuition is often explained as one of two general modes of thinking, along with analytic reasoning. Intuition generally refers to a brain process that gives people the ability to make decisions without the use of analytical reasoning, the researchers suggest. Inutition is a combined outcome of many thoughts and feelings about something. These thoughts and feelings are not necessarily re-constructible. Intuitive thinking is described as automatic, fast, and subconscious. Analytic thinking, on the other hand, is slow, logical, conscious and deliberate.

Despite widespread acceptance of this idea by psychologists and the public, scientists have lacked a reliable test to gather objective data on intuition and even prove its existence. For the first time, researchers devised a technique to measure intuition. After using this method, they found evidence that people can use their intuition to make faster, more accurate and more confident decisions, according to the findings, published online in April in the journal Psychological Science. The study shows that intuition does, indeed, exist and that researchers can measure it, said Joel Pearson, an associate professor of psychology at the University of New South Wales in Australia and the lead author of the study. The study showed that information subconsciously perceived in the brain will help with decisions if that information holds some value or extra evidence beyond what people already have in their conscious mind.

However a recent meta-analysis shows that the two modes of thinking are not correlated and could actually be occurring at the same time. However, based on the subconscious nature of intuitive thinking and our awareness makes it difficult to determine when it occurs.

The major downfall of intuition since it relies on evolutionarily older and automatic processing which may give rise to misguidances. One example of a misguidance would be cognitive biases. The increased information at our fingertips makes it easier to validate our insights from our intuition. It also allows one to become a subject matter expert. Typically if one is not an expert then one resorts to analytical thinking. The more expert one is the more one has to use gut instincts to then use information to validate the hunch.

Body Awareness

“The art of inner body awareness will develop into a completely new way of living, a state of permanent connectedness with being and will add a depth to your life that you have never known before.”

Eckhart Tolle

Mind, Body and Spirit. The holy trinity to health. Which one should I start to work on first. Body Awareness is described as a person’s awareness of their body parts and knowing where their body is in a defined space. Mind, Body and Spirit. The holy trinity to health. How we occupy energetic space determines what we perceive in energetic space.

From my first steps onto my yoga mat until present day I am feeling sensing how my body awareness is one of the most important tools I use to utilizing intuitive healing if my my mind and spirit are continuing to integrate.

My body awareness has personally developed faster by concentrating on doing slow movement exercises such as tai chi and qiqong. In addition, I have been working really hard on combining breath with the movement. When I first started yoga I was like most beginners and tried really hard to push my body rather than let the breath take me deeper into the postures.

Body awareness is about grounding also. So to that extent in addition to flowing into asanas using the breath I use grounding asanas. It is almost as my practice has taken two paths. Oh, the grounding asanas yet the flowing ones from one pose to another. Which one do I choose. I have promised I would write this blog from my experiential present moment.

Pantajali. Sthira and Sukha: Steadiness and Ease

Most of the asanas in the Hatha Pradipika are not about flowing. There are certain Western exercises such as skate skiing where there is no difference. Movement creates the stillness the steadiness the ease. How many people can sit in an hour of meditation.

I urge people to just take the time to retreat into their breath. Get away from all the distractions. Five minutes. Forming a habit is important.

Why I Stopped Teaching Yoga

My First Plunge into Yoga

Being an avid cyclist and runner I started my journey onto my yoga path as a way of releasing my aches and pains. Soon I started reading yoga books and attending classes. At the time I did not realize that most of these classes were just asana classes. But I wanted to learn more. I found myself enrolling in a 200 hour training course for teachers. Now 20 years later I am no longer a teacher in a studio but perhaps teaching in a less traditional way.

Anyone who knows true yoga knows that the traditional yoga was not taught in a classroom but in a teacher student one on one relationship. I believe that this methodology was the best tool because it created a unique relationship. It allowed a transformation using the “yoking” of the mind, body, spirit, and heart of the student through the teacher’s observation of what a particular student required. This is why I was so imbued after each yoga teacher training session. It was as if my teacher was guiding me. I know my class was limited to a small number of students. While I did not realize at the time that I had developed that one on one relationship.

The challenge for a teacher in any yoga class is trying to teach the theory of yoga not just the asanas so that students can “yoke” their own mind, body and spirit. The odds are against the teacher since most students want only the asanas and that is we are paid to teach asana. So I stopped teaching because I just could not seem to teach yoga the way I wanted. I really do regret it because I feel I now with all I have learned I could have somehow reached my goal of teaching my idea of true yoga. But the beauty of yoga is that there is not just one type of yoga. Students come in through different doors but eventually if they are true students like myself realize how yoga can transform them.

I believe yoga is all about self study. The teacher maybe there to guide you but you have to do the work. One of the goals of this blog is to use the intuitive intelligence each of us have to reach your health, well being and spiritual goals. I hope to impart some of the other doors through which we can open to reach this goals. Future topics include different systems to hone intuitive intelligence including qiqong, energy medicine, and psychology of the mind. But first let’s talk a little about intuitive intelligence.